Sunday, July 25, 2010

Chivalry. What is it?

Chivalry? Com' on, You are probably thinking... That word is like from the 7th century! Well, despite its "age" this word has a lot of meaning for us today. While we don't have knights in shining armor riding around to save damsel's in distress we do have still have guys and girls who should be caring about one another and helping each other out.

So, what is my definition of Chivalry? Here is what I think we can break it down too: "Chivalry: The act of one, or multiple, man/men, helping to make a women's world a better place to be." We could break it down even father and universalize it to say: "Chivalry is simply, one person helping and giving of themselves to better someone else." Hm... this reminds me of what Jesus said, " The Second Greatest Commandment is to love your neighbor, as you love yourself..." doesn't it? 

The definition might help you understand Chivalry more but you may be wondering, " does this concept apply today?" My answer is a resounding, YES! Guys, If you see a girl that is loaded down with boxes, help her! Open doors for the ladies, offer to help them in anyway that they need! You might wonder where you should start... well, how about when you are about to go somewhere with your mom or sisters? Why not start by helping them out? God gives us all family units to learn how to help out humanity and if we don't learn at home, it will most likely be so much harder to learn once we are gone from home! Let us take advantage of the family units that God has given us and learn while we are surrounded by those who love us most. 

Girls. To be honest with you, I have rarely met a girl who has refused for me to open the door or something like that but I know there are those out there. Please, Please, Please!  Help us guys out by allowing us to give you a hand! I know that there are those who think that you don't need help. We aren't always saying that you need help, but rather, that we want to help you, to make it even easier for you! Please, don't refuse the next time a guy asks to help you out!

All this leads to what I'd really like to stress for you all. The Lord Jesus commands us to love one another, as we love ourselves. Chivalry is simply the guys way of doing that. I don't think that we guys always wanna get out of our air-condition cars to help that elderly lady out by putting her cart away but I know that the Lord commands us to help and love others like we love ourselves. When I am 85, I sure hope that a young man will be willing to help me out and I pray God will give me grace to help that 95 year old lady out! If you struggle with the idea of loving others sacrificially, pray! God will hear and answer. Loving one another is a heart attitude. May God bless us as we try to love one another!


8 comments:

  1. Wow! Awesome post!! You definitely took that beyond the point where I did.
    I def. relate about helping out the elderly, all the time I see an elderly person(man, or woman) leaving the grocery store and preparing to load their car or cross the parking lot, and I first think "I could totally go over there and help her out...but, I'm too tired, or I don't wanna offend her making her think I think she is really old"..or whatever!
    If I am still mobile when I am 80 I sure hope that someone would please help me out! Better get to it now. ;)
    And don't worry, I am not the type of girl to refuse the gentleman way! And God help the girls that do.
    Great post!

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  2. Great post! :) I always appreciate when you are a gentlemen.

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  3. Hey All! Thanks for the comments....... Hope everyone's summer is going great!

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  4. Great post Jacob! You are right about there being girls who think they don't need help, and we do need to let young men/boys learn how to honor and respect their wives by letting them help us. If every time they try to help a girl, she turns him down, he will soon stop helping!

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  5. Thanks Anna! That is so true: "If every time they try to help a girl, she turns him down, he will soon stop helping!" Perhaps there is something here to think about for the girls too! :)

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  6. Amen to that, Anna!! :)
    Not in a haughty way, but only humbly do I except the kindness of a gentlemen. I think it is a wonderful thing! : )

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  7. Yeah, it is something I have noticed that is lacking in alot on young men today!

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  8. From the viewpoint of a girl...I love when a guy holds the door for me or takes something heavy from me.

    Without naming names, there are some boys I know who think it's great that I can carry almost as heavy stuff as they can. And there are others who will take heavy things from me to help me. I def. like the ones who help waaaay better.

    It makes a girl feel respected and taken care of instead of having to compete to be "stronger" or "better."

    Anyways........love the post, Jake!!!

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